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1 Admin's father in hospital on Thu Jun 11, 2009 3:07 pm

Admin,

I'm really sorry to hear about your father last night. The only thing that we can do right now is to pray for him. I know what you are going through.You take care.

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2 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Thu Jun 11, 2009 3:30 pm

Admin,

Hope your dad will get well soon.

Road Runner

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3 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Thu Jun 11, 2009 5:34 pm

Yesterday while at work, I received a call from my wife. She is needed at Kaiser Permanente by the attending physicians to discuss the removal of her father's life support systems. My wife has a power of attorney which was signed by her dad a while back to make decisions for his well being, and this is the moment. My father in-law has been on dialysis for the longest time and little by little, the quality of life went and gone. A decision has to be made, and with with all the family members in agreement, she approved the removal of the life support systems and no DNR. He has been moved to a hospice where he's given morphine drips to ease his pain and sufferings. He has 2, 3, 4 days of life left, Doctor says. I'll leave work early to go see him. I know that I will cry for I already am while I'm writing this. I'll tell you more later.

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4 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:59 pm

It's time to go. I'm uncomfortable about going. I have a good idea what to expect. It's sad enough and it's going to get worst. I'm gonna see my wife, daughter, mother and sis-inlaws, cry it out. Although I'm a man, I know I won't be able to hold it. I am prepared however, I brought my dark sunglasses to cover my eyes. I know it's gonna be harder. Every breath he takes will be heavy. My wife wants me to bring air mattress. She says it's allright to spend the night there. I tried to tell her that she should do something to occupy her mind such as work, but she doesn't want to. I have to go now...I'll tell you more later

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5 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Thu Jun 11, 2009 10:31 pm

I am so sorry to hear that bad news.

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6 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Fri Jun 12, 2009 6:25 am

A hospice provides comfort for the terminally ill patients to their last breath of air. It's really a sad place. All patients and all of their families have the same in common. Shortly after I arrived, the patient next door passed away. I had a few words with the daughter and I learned that she had cancer of the bones. She further explained that she suffered a lot of pain...non stop pain similar to a toothache. I went to the chapel and prayed for her soul, and also asked Jesus to take my father in-law by the hand and keep him by his side, and ask for his forgiveness and to always guide us who are left behind to safety. In the room, my father in-law just laid there. "Dad! I'm here", I said, and he opened his eyes and gave me a smile...but he closed his eyes right back. I had flashbacks of the good old days with him. I remembered the first time when Brenda's sister Debbie and her boyfriend Ben, Me and Brenda and my in-laws went together to Las Vegas. He went to get us rooms. He said, "Brenda and Debbie, here's your room keys, and Sonny and Ben, here's your keys." He had us with separate rooms, but we switched right after he went in his room. He is a great man. He said what he liked and disliked about you. He told me that if I ever hit my wife, he would kick my ass to Timbucto, and I know he meant it. That is if there's any more left of me for my wife will surely beat the sh_t out of me first.

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7 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Fri Jun 12, 2009 1:34 pm

Sorry to hear about your suffering, just went thru this not long ago. It is truly hard to see someone dear in pain and suffering. Our hearts and prayers are with you.

To live it to suffer; to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.



Carlo

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8 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Sat Jun 13, 2009 3:48 pm

Yesterday, I arrived at the Citrus Hospice at about 2 pm. There were many people there to visit their belove ones respectively. You can feel the emotions of sadness in the air, the sufferings of the terminally ill, and the sensation of the many lost souls that are trapped and lingers within the walls. I stopped to check the bulletin board, and two must have gone for I see two new ones. As for my Dad in law, signs are apparent that he nears the inevitable. His skin has changed to purplish in color, due to the heart weakening to pump blood all around his body. His breathing are now louder as if he is gasping for air. I tried to wake him, but he is unresponsive. Since he has kidney failure and no longer receive dialysis,the toxins in his blood have taken its toll...he begins to drown in his own body fluid. In my thought, I asked Jesus to stop his sufferings, take his hand and guide him to heaven...please Lord?

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9 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Sat Jun 13, 2009 7:22 pm

At 12:02 pm, he suffers no more. He is now in heaven...in a better place. God bless his soul and pray for us all. And now, the heartaches of his family and friends he left behind begins.. Sad Sad

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10 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Sat Jun 13, 2009 11:51 pm

Admin, Spiderman,

Nakikiramay, God bless his soul and may he rest in peace. You guys take care.

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11 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Sun Jun 14, 2009 4:48 am

Admin & Spiderman, sad to hear about the death of Dad, God bless his soul. Just think that he is in a better place now.
Please let us know the itenerary (viewing & funeral).

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12 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Mon Jun 15, 2009 2:02 am

my deepest condolence.

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13 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Mon Jun 15, 2009 3:15 pm

So sorry about your lost. He is in a better place without pain and suffering.
Please accept our deepest condolence.

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14 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Mon Jun 15, 2009 3:18 pm

Admin and Spiderman,

Our deepest symphaty to you and your family. May your dad rest in peace.

Road Runner

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15 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:01 am

Hope you can join us. Thanks!

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16 Re: Admin's father in hospital on Wed Jun 24, 2009 3:37 am

Brenda wanted her Dad's viewing and rosary to be held on Saturday, but the mortuary was fully booked. It would have been great since Saturday was her birthday, but on Sunday, June 21, 2009 is just as significant for it's Father's Day. It seems awkward, but to my understanding , we hold such an event to celebrate the life of our dearly departed.

Anyhow, Sunday morning was gloomy, but the sun peeked in and out as the day progressed and totally prevailed in mid-afternoon. We arrived at the mortuary at noontime eventhough viewing doesn't start until 2 pm. It was an excellent idea. Indeed, we had the place privately to ourselves so we really cried it out before the guest arrived, similar to the preparations of a mixed martial arts fighter prior to entering the octagon of an Ultimate Fighting Championship. I'm ugly as it is and even uglier when I cry and I'm glad no one saw it.

Many gathered at the Pierce Brothers Mortuary in San Gabriel, CA to honor and celebrate his life. His childhood friends and relatives from New Mexico and Arizona were here. My son James and my daughter Carole and most of my relatives were also here. Ohgie, Angelo, Glenn, Lito, Gudy and Daisy, and Rene's sons Mark and Peter all of Pinoy Riders USA dropped by and Dennis Banez of the Juan Dela Cruisers also dropped by.

Thank you so much for taking the time-out away from your families on Father's Day to come to the mortuary. Your presence could not have come at a better time. Brenda and I really enjoyed seeing your friendly faces there. It is gestures like yours which helped give us the strength and courage to endure the heartaches we suffer. We are deeply touched to receive the generous and thoughtful gifts...prayers and sympathies. We truly appreciate your thoughfulness and we shall forever be grateful. I have never felt so honored to have you as my friends and it's your friendship that has helped and will get us through this difficult time.

Afterwards, we gathered at the Flores residence for a repast. We employed the service of a famous caterer specializing in chicken, carnitas, and carne asada Tacos. This guy is fantastic. He trailered in his own kitchen, eight large folding tables and one hundred folding chairs. It was quite a set up and I must say, "he really knows his Tacos." They were tasty! It's the best tacos I ever had....well, not quite as good as mine, but they're good Tacos.

On Monday, we got up at around 7 am in preparation for the funeral. The weather was perfect...temperature in the mid 80s with no traces of clouds in sight. The mass starts at 10 am, but we had to be in the church at around 9 am. The hearse was already there when we arrived. I had a flashback of a funeral Dad and I attended and Dad jokingly told me to take a good look at my last ride someday. The hearse we saw was a Lincoln Continental and the one he's on now is a Cadillac Deville, which was his favorite brand. He will have a long ride to Riverside National Cemetery on it.

Todays attendance was not as many as yesterday. It seems, only family, relatives, and dearest friends were here, probably because it's a working day. Surprisingly, Lito of Pinoy Riders USA was here once more. He has taken the day off to attend and shoot videos of the funeral. Thank you so much. I'm at your disposal when you move to Palmdale, so let me know!

I was one of the pallbearer and Dad, together with the coffin was pretty heavy. I was worried for the two elders at each end of the other end at the feet area who are in their mid 70s who may trip over and hurt themselves. Then, I was told that the head area where I was at is a lot more heavier. Gee whiz! No wonder I was having a hard time.

The mass was over at 11 am. We opted out of motorcycle escort since it was about 60 miles to Riverside National Cemetery and after giving out directions and intructions where to meet, off we went.

All made it safe and sound to staging area number 5 where we waited to 1 pm for further instructions. I heard they bury 30+ veterans a day in here. Dad served in the US Navy during the Korean War. Burial for a veteran and a spouse at a national cemetery is one of the benefits earned when you served in the Armed Forces of the United States of America.

It was exactly 1 pm when a representative of the Department of Defense arrived. As veteran myself, I was expecting punctuality and it was. She led us to the committal shelter where Senobio Flores received a military funeral honors ceremony, including folding and presenting the United States burial flag to Mom, and the playing of Taps. It was a sight to see. I have now an insight of how my funeral will be.

After we said our final good byes to Dad, off we went to another repast. This time, it was at Hometown Buffet at the Moreno Valley Mall. We were so hungry, we ate everything. It's for certain...Hometown lost out from this group. We are forever grateful to all who felt our loss and for us. Thank you. He shall always be in our hearts.

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